One of the most famous ways human beings are fundamentally irrational is our reaction to the possibility of regretting a decision. We really hate the idea that we might have future regrets. So much so that shops only have to put up a “sale” sign or mark something “limited edition” and we rush to buy in case the items we want become unavailable. Never mind that these items are often extremely generic and easily found elsewhere, or soon to be out of fashion and abandoned. Yes, I am speaking from experience.

So, regret aversion, as this phenomenon is called, has a bad name in the personal finance community. We’re encouraged to step away from the sale goods and give ourselves 24 hours to reconsider whether there’ll really never be another reasonably priced plain white t-shirt or if we’d actually find life meaningless without an avocado slicer like the one that influencer uses. (What even happened to avocados? Are they still a thing? I’m too old to know.)

I think, however, there are ways to make regret aversion work for you. Don’t get me wrong, it’s possible to make many silly choices from trying to avoid the possibility of regret. It’s a major cause of procrastination as we try to reconcile mutually exclusive options. Done right though, regret aversion can be harnessed to help us get motivated in the face of fear, self-doubt, boredom, frustration and plain old slog.

I have an image on the desktop of my computer that says “Turn ‘I could have’ into ‘I did’”. It’s there to remind me that I don’t want to look back on my life with regret. I don’t want to say “I had these gifts and opportunities and I didn’t use them”.

You can use this method for all sorts of goals including financial ones. Tell yourself “It might suck giving up my time to budget and meal plan, but if I can’t afford to spoil my partner on our anniversary, that’s going to suck even more”. Or perhaps, “I might feel uncomfortable negotiating my salary, but I’ll regret feeling I could have earned enough to save a deposit for my own home”. Or even, “It may feel awkward to ask the adviser to explain my pension to me yet again, but I don’t want to get to retirement and find I’ll be living on beans on toast instead of ”.

This is why it’s important to be really clear about your goals. The more you can visualise what you’re working towards, the more you can use the potential regret of not getting it to motivate you.

Exercise:

Imagine one of your personal goals very clearly, something you think you could do, with a bit of effort. Go on. I’ll wait.

Now picture the regret you would feel if you didn’t do everything you could to achieve it.

It feels horrible right? So, what can you do to make sure you never feel that way? What steps can you take towards that goal?

Comment below, what do you not want to regret?